CLOTH DIAPERS

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MY REASONS TO USE CLOTH DIAPERS:

* baby comfortability

* no harmful chemicals on babies bums

* fewer diaper rashes

* potty training sooner because they will feel the pee right away and associate that with emptying their bladder and recognize the sign

* economically and environmentally sound

* CHEAPER!!!! Yeah for us working folk!

When I had my first daughter, I knew that I wanted her to wear cloth diapers. I thought that it would be ridiculous to throw out diapers everyday and I felt like super mom and wanted to do EVERYTHING natural! So our parents purchased a starter kit for us and presented it to us at the baby shower. I spent hours cleaning them with natural dishwashing detergents, folding them meticulously and placing them on a shelf under a change table. They sat waiting to touch the newborn bum.

But when I placed Charlotte on the pad, I took one look at the flat cotton fabric and weird little snappy thing, and I freaked out. For 8 weeks we used the disposables, until one day, on request by my husband (the ever-so diligent environmentalist), convinced our natural parenting neighbours to come over and show us the ropes. And that he did.

The folding was simple, the snaps super easy and surprisingly the entire process was quick. We continued to practice (mainly out of necessity than desire - as any parent with a newborn can attest to). I loved it and became a master.

On one occasion, I was at my sister's and freaked out because we didn't have any more cloth diapers. She had only the disposables and they scared me. I seriously had no idea how to put them on.

So....The Cloth Diaper Debate. There are many arguments both for and against this practice. Those against cite, surprisingly for some, environmental reasons. Some believe that cloth diapers consume more water and energy thus contributing to atmospheric emissions and waste water (these consultants were hired by Proctor and Gamble a company that covers $3.2 billion of the diaper market). Others believe that is nonsense and maintain that all components of the diaper and the process it takes to create, transport, manufacture, sell, consume and then dispose of those diapers is definitely more detrimental (CHECK OUT THIS ARTICLE by the SUSTAINABLE INSTITUTE about the GREAT DIAPER DEBATE).

There is tons of information on the web. Do your research, make your decision, but remember to note who is sponsoring or producing the article. Does the author or contributions have any sort of gain, financial or otherwise, for their findings?

For those of you who do decide to use cloth diapers I am here to help you out a bit.

FIRST Choose which style of cloth diaper you would like to use.

Head on over to Green Mom, Happy Mom for an overview of the types. She has done most of the work for you. And consider these four questions she has posted on her website when buying:

1. How often do you want to do laundry?

The more diapers you have, the less you have to do.

2. Who is going to change the baby?

This question refers to ease of use for all parties who will be helping clean baby bum.

3. What is your patience level?

4. WHAT IS YOUR BUDGET?! - A Key Factor

SECOND buy them or receive them as a gift and clean them.

Don't worry if your cloth diapers shrink after the first wash. They were designed to accomodate the shrinking factor. Use a hypo-allergenic (and environmental) soap that will be gentle on baby's precious skin.

THIRD let the Poop Shoot and start changing.

Most diapers will come with folding instructions and the staff who sell them are very knowledgeable. Some places even have workshops. But the folds vary with design.

Please head on over to the Ottawa-based store The Extraordinary Baby Shoppe or the Perth-based store Sweet Peach for all your diapering needs and questions. These lovely ladies also have blogs to follow.

FOURTH is cleaning

Use the "Dry Pail Method". This method consists of placing the wet or soiled diaper into the pail without water (which is a drowning hazard). If really soiled shake of the solids in the toilet and rinse in the toilet. Breastfed poo has a yogurt consistency and washes out easily.

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• Wash twice. Once on cold to get out the protein stains and then on warm. (Vinegar can be added at the end of the rinse cycle but not necessary).

Dry the diapers in the sun because it is nature's whitener and sanitizer.

There you have it ladies. Any questions, feel free to ask, as I have washed thousands of diapers over the past two years.

xoxoxo

FREE STUFF!!!

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WELL, they have created a FREE downloadable book to answer just such questions. For someone who loves all teas, I found it amazing.

The products are great, the resources amazing (pregnancy, post partum, baby loss). I also found another great resource to support grieving mothers and their families. It is called Healing Hearts: Baby Loss Comfort.

National Breastfeeding Awareness Month

Yes!!! YES!!! and YES!!! This is the month that we breastfeeding mamas live for. We strongly believe that every month should be breastfeeding month but sometimes you must take baby steps to change the world. The personal video explains this post pretty well...so please enjoy! And if you are looking for more information about World Breastfeeding Week (August 1st - 7th) please click here. This website has so many useful sites and SUPPORT.

You can breastfeed! You can!!!

Click on this link to subscribe to my MOTHER EARTH CHILD COLLECTIVE channel and get my opinion on the videos. MUAH!!

ORGANIZATION PROFILE: SHARE - Pregnancy and Loss Support, Inc.

MISSION:

"The mission of Share Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support, Inc. is to serve those whose lives are touched by the tragic death of a baby through pregnancy loss, stillbirth or in the first few months of life.

The primary purpose is to provide support toward positive resolution of grief experienced at the time of, or following the death of a baby. This support encompasses emotional, physical, spiritual, and social healing, as well as sustaining the family unit.

The secondary purpose of Share is to provide information, education, and resources on the needs and rights of bereaved parents and siblings. The objective is to aid those in the community, including family, friends, employers, members of the congregation, caregivers, and others in their supportive role."

HISTORY

"In the fall of 1977, Share began at St. John’s Hospital in Springfield, Illinois by Sister Jane Marie Lamb, OSF, and several hospital staffers due to the lack of resources experienced by one bereaved young family. Within four months, the first support group met. Over the past thirty years Share has grown to become an international organization with nearly 100 chapters.

This global movement has vastly improved the standards of care and rights towards bereaved families experiencing the death of a baby during the pregnancy, at birth or as an infant. Share is recognized as a principal provider for bereavement materials and resources. Also, Share is a leading educator and consultant for caregivers, clergy, funeral directors and the media. The National Share Office is supported primarily by donations, which help cover all the services offered including free resources sent to bereaved families, an annual subscription to Share’s newsletter, and our interactive website with twelve message boards.

In 1992, the National Share Office was moved near the campus of SSM St. Joseph Health Center in St. Charles, Missouri. The administration of SSM St. Joseph Health Center was instrumental in providing Share a wonderful home.

Currently, The National Share Office is run by fourteen Board of Directors with Mandy Murphey, a Fox 2 news anchor, as president. Executive Director, Cathi Lammert leads seven staff members in the Share National Office."

Although Share is an American organization, the resources available on this website are amazing. There are chat rooms, message boards, a link to an informative blog, as well as downloadable and purchasable articles discussing the grief experienced by different members of the family (children, parents, grandparents), memory creation and ways to support a grieving parent.

The Share online catalogue also provides a variety of books, videos and other resources in abundance and include healing journals and remembrance boxes.

Please click here to link to Share's website.

Stillbirths: Providing Support after the Loss of a Child

In a recent conversation with my sister, who is six months pregnant, it came up that her husband's relative had gone through one of life's cruelest experiences: a stillbirth. As I understand it, she was 7 months pregnant. My sister was set to share a baby shower with her. She is a very emotionally intelligent person, as well are many of us, but this is a situation that many people will never encounter. So it begs the question, with the absolute devastation that these parents are feeling, how do you provide support?

NOTE: Please keep in mind that there are other forms of perinatal loss (miscarriage, neonatal death, babies with permanent health anomalies, traumatic birth experience, adoption)

One must first understand the FOUR PHASES OF BEREAVEMENT (adapted from J. William Worden: Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy):

1. Shock and Numbness (first 2 weeks). This phase is characterized by a short attention span, difficult concentration, disbelief, lack of functioning, and denial.

2. Searching / Yearning (2nd week - 4th month). This phase is characterized by anger, guilt, restlessness and resentment primarily. There may be an obsession with getting pregnant again or a preoccupation with the deceased. Physically this phase may see a weight gain or loss, sleeping difficulties, aching arms, weakness and headaches.

3. Disorientation(5th to 9th month). This phase is characterized by a psychological confusion: "I'm Going Crazy" feeling, social withdrawal, forgetfulness, guilt, depression, insomnia, sadness, exhaustion and this overwhelming feeling of failure.

4. Reorganization and Resolution (half a year to 2nd year). Begin to think about the future again with their renewed sense of energy. They are able to smile and laugh again. Eating and sleeping habits are re-established.

Knowing these phases can better equip you with dealing with a grieving person.

Here are just a few things that you CAN SAY / DO:

"I'm sad for you"

"How are you doing with all this?"

"What can I do for you?"

"I'm sorry, I'm here and I want to listen"

Listen, touch, cry, attend the ceremony, remember them on all anniversaries (baby's due date, birthday and death day)

Here are things that your SHOULD NOT SAY:

"You're young, try again"

"You have an angel in heaven"

"Better this happen now, before you knew the baby"

"This happened for the best"

Calling the baby "fetus" or "it"

Here is also a list of resources to assist. Remember it is never too late for expressing your feelings to the family about their loss.

Giving Support After a Stillbirth. (This article is a general overview but very helpful)

Limbo, R.K. and Wheeler, S.R. (1998), When a baby dies: a handbook for healing and helping (2nd edition).

J. William Worden's Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy.

Lost Dream is a Canadian Based organization dedicated to helping the grief-stricken.

GWYNETH PALTROW'S GOT GOOP, I'VE GOT POOP

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I have been a dedicated follower and subscriber of Gwyneth Paltrow's GOOP.com. Most weeks she publishes a new online article that covers one of the six areas that seem to be paramount to her life: MAKE, GET, GO, DO, BE, SEE. It is a great website for all, especially stay at home moms. She pretty much does the research on things for you. She is easily relatable for me as well because we are both mothers of two working on ourselves to be better individuals to them.

This week's article touches on Postpartum Depression. Gwyneth for this article approached a OB/GYN for a definition, talked with Bryce Dallas Howard (actress and daughter to director/actor Ron Howard), and also talks to Heather Armstrong, a brave woman who has openly blogged for 9 years about her life and experiences, one being PPD.

Although the article is brief, it is compiled in a manner that reminds one that PPD affects many of us and that, in fact, it is okay to acknowledge. The links to the article can be found at the bottom of this post.

The title of this post however is what I want to get around to. While I deeply encourage you to go and subscribe to Gwyneth's online baby, I wanted to introduce you to a section that I will be having on this little blog called POOP.

Suffering from PPD myself after the birth of my second child, I know personally how overwhelming things can get. The purpose of POOP will be to share little anecdotes of my life with the girls to remind y'all that we do have our bad moments, days, sometimes weeks. But we are one on this journey through motherhood. Let's support each other.

xoxoxo

Crystal

Here are the links to the article and DOOCE.COM

For those living in the Ottawa AREA please contact the Ottawa Public Health Information at 613-560-6744 ext. 28020, your family physician, or the 24 hour Distress Centre 613-238-3311 for immediate support. You local Community Health centre or community centre may have support groups for new parents and I will be looking into them to post them on the blog.

BIRTHING AS A RITE OF PASSAGE

I have been given the esteemed honour of creating a baby shower for my sister. She is expecting her first child, on my birthday nonetheless, and I wanted to make the experience memorable, less about products and all about this wonderful rite of passage for both mother and babe. My dear sister, as well as I, feel very deeply about these so-called showers: we do not like them. The shower was historically a means by which to bestow blessings upon the baby and mother through ritual, love and culture. North American culture is so far removed from that as our consumerism has swept its way into our precious babies' lives and ours. Here is the link to an article published by a wiccan mother, Elder and Priestess, Sue Curewitz Arthen. And although I am not wiccan, the history she presents is accurate and her viewpoints well taken. I am concerned prenatally and postnatally about the mother and baby, their connection and their connection to the earth. I want my sister to experience the opposite of what my baby shower was: a room full of disconnect, unfamiliarity, and product.

Rites of Passage Celebration of Birth by Sue Curewitz Arthen